" Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.
I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it.
Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless
they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re
dating someone.
But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as
romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships
that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever - and
yet the friendship is the one people ignore.
I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who
are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your
parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets - they say, yes,
okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish
just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t
it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing - not even a
date - out of you?
It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also
wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls.
It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of
buddies who are really excited about learning.
The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the
one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe
instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves
together." Found on Tumblr
"There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or
being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to
be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love
with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You
need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole
being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with
friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your
own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up
for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but
don’t romanticize love like you can’t survive without it. Live for
yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I
promise.”
―
Emery Allen
“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person--without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.” Osho
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