Intuition

 Intuition 

It took me years to trust it

I owe it to my friend Derek, RIP 

He helped teach me to trust myself 

People are readable 

And so is energy

Our emotions are our guiding system

 They work together with our intuition to send us messages

All you need to do is...

Be still

Be quiet 

Listen 

To your inner knowing 

All the answers are within you

Anxiety

It's our body telling us that something is not right 

Something is off with the place we are in

The people we are surrounded by 

Or maybe we are behaving in a way that is not aligned with our values 

Depression is our bodies way of telling us that we have not listened to our intuition for far too  long

I heard that you know it is intuition when it doesn't come from fear,shame, or guilt

And that is where everything clicked for me

Your head is loud

It operates from a place of fear, shame, guilt

Your intuition is quiet 

It operates from a place of peace

 Doing what is best for you

 Trying to get you to your best self 

 A higher frequency 

What I've come to realize is that not listening to your intuition is self abandonment 

I don't want to abandon myself anymore 

Society is fucked up

 Men are taught emotions are weakness 

Women are taught emotional intelligence 

Women are called "dramatic"or "too emotional" by men who don't know better 

Men are praised for having sex

Women are chastised for it

Women are treated as we are less intellectually and physically 

Women are treated as objects, like we are only meant to be looked at and used

Not heard

Not valued

Men feel entitled to take what they want and discuss and objectify our bodies

This sends a clear message that women are not worthy of safety and respect 

Not even allowed to have the right to choose what to do with our own body (abortion rights)

Relationships

Relationships are tricky 

They can give you the highest of highs

And the lowest of lows

Make you feel like you are on top of the world

Or like you are in the gutter

It can feel like your happiness depends on finding and keeping a romantic partner 

But your happiness should never be put on the shoulders of one person 

I've only experienced relationships that were extremely emotionally dependent on me or situationship relationships where the person was emotionally unavailable 

Nothing in between of those two extremes

When someone put too much pressure on it

I ran

It felt suffocating 

Like they expected me to be their whole world

 After one month 

Maybe I was the one emotionally unavailable then or maybe they just weren't it for me, those ones seemed better as friends 

But then fell for love bombing 

Some how from some people, their enthusiasm felt like chemistry 

For others it felt like desperation 

But those who felt like chemistry didn't feel forced

They just felt fun,easy, care free 

When feelings got real.. they ran

But

I rather that than the over dependence 

I rather silence than manipulation, control, and criticizing of my values/ who I am as a person

Or someone  making me feel guilty for years because they made me feel like I was responsible for their happiness 

I thought I was giving a chance to someone who was persistent and had genuine feelings in my  last relationship 

But it ended up being a person who was an over dependent narcissist 

So my question is how do you find those in the middle between emotionally overly dependent and emotionally unavailable?

At age 31

It seems like a difficult task to pursue 

Hopefully not impossible though 

Hopefully not impossible

Maybe I need to embody the person I seek 

And even just some trustworthy friends would be more than enough for me

Trauma

Trauma

I used to hate that word

It felt dramatic 

Yeah I've been through some shit 

But no not trauma

It wasn't that bad

I dismissed all of it

Because other people have it worse

I didn't see that ironically 

Dismissing it was a trauma response 

Sometimes trauma isn't loud 

It's not always being physically harmed

Sometimes it's losing your mom at way too young

Sometimes it's a thousand tiny paper cuts of ableism 

Whispers "what is wrong with her?"

"Why does her hand look so weird?" 

"Why does she walk like that? "

She is using her disability as an excuse 

It's being ghosted by the first friend you had from preschool to age 14

Guys picking on you if they thought you liked them in middle school because how embarrassing for the disabled girl to like you

Finding out one too many times that you cannot trust the people you thought you could like even your boss at work 

It's being excluded

Other times it is loud

It is being yelled at

Being made to feel like your responsible for other people's emotions 

When someone takes out being mad at themselves on you-projection 

It's small things that you accidentally forget to do because of your adhd being taken out of proportion 

And then being kicked out of your house and someone being mad at you for it

Being assumed you have bad intentions for how your brain works in a more forgetful manner 

Sometimes it's quiet like being ignored and misunderstood 

Sometimes it is loud like being taken advantage  of  and being made to feel like you are the problem 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

 I was 18 years old before I realized that other people saw me as pretty

 But still took years to really believe it, I remember telling my first bf " only you think that" when he tried to compliment me 

I remember being shocked that people wrote that they thought I was pretty in my yearbook senior year 

I never thought people could see past my CP/ shy girl  persona

Only few and far between got to see my true fun loving goofy self

I learned that making myself small, quiet, and nice made it so I got picked on less

But I sacrificed people getting to know who I really was

I thought  my baby dinosaur hand/ lucky fin/ bad arm plus limp would disqualify me as beautiful on the outside so I focused on the inside 

Plus I look like I have a black eye if I don't have make up on lol

But that's the thing, people don't see your flaws the way you do

You may magnify them and make them qualify you as a reason that you are less attractive or worthy

But other people don't see it that way 

Sometimes your inner beauty shines through to your outer beauty 

To be able to look at yourself in the way that the people you love do would be a blessing 

You may just find the things you hate about yourself are actually what makes you so loveable 

Maybe your quirks and flaws is what makes you beautiful 

Because we all have imperfections 

What a beautiful thing it is to realize that you are worthy just the way you are as your most authentic self 

What a beautiful thing it is to realize that no one can hurt you with truth you have already accepted about yourself and are working on improving 

Disability Pride 2025

 Whenever I post about disabilities it is to make this girl proud ( my younger self). She did not know how to speak up for herself. She did not know she was beautiful just the way she was.

I always felt like I had to work extra hard to prove I am just like everyone.To prove I am smart, capable,strong,and independent.

July is disability pride month and I'm not going to lie some days I am far from proud. Some days I have internal ableism " the only real disability is a bad attitude" and " others have it worse", I tell myself. The problem with this is that it minimizes my struggles .“Life as a disabled person is actually somewhat difficult. We do overcome some things. But the things that we’re overcoming are not the things that you think they are. They are not things to do with our bodies. I use the term “disabled people” quite deliberately, because I subscribe to what’s called the social model of disability, which tells us that we are more disabled by the society that we live in than by our bodies and our diagnoses.” Stella  Young

Some people have treated me as if I was less (intellectually and physically) for having CP. Other people forget I have CP and are harsh when I'm not living up to certain standards. While others call me " inspirational". Being called an inspiration is not the compliment you think it is though, it is objectifying disabiled people for the benefit of able bodied people, to say things could be worse. But, disability isn't a bad thing.

"Disability doesn’t make you exceptional, but questioning what you think you know about it does.”  Stella Young 

Without Cerebral Palsy I wouldn't be me. Cerebral palsy has given me a unique perspective and insights that I could not have gained any other way. 

“If there was a cure for cerebral palsy I would not do it because this is me, this is my life” Josh Blue

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse starts out slow

Subtitle insulting 

Tearing you down a little bit at a time 

Not all at once 

One minute they buy you flowers and chocolates 

They cook delicious meals and they clean your house for you

They tell you,  "you are amazing , beyond imagination"

The next minute" you are a narcissist, who has multiple personalities," for not accepting their disrespect 

They apologize and say they will "never do it again "

And then they say it is your fault because you triggered them 

They dismiss their actions because it was due to alcohol 

And then it is your responsibility to stay because leaving will hinder their recovery 

When you set a boundary, they don't respect it, and they say that "you lack empathy" 

When you want your space, they say " you are selfish "

Manipulation and control in every action 

But only hindsight is 20/20 

It is not your fault 

It can happen to anyone 

You aren't accountable for their bad behavior 

You aren't responsible for their recovery 

You deserve better 

Love is meant to heal, not harm

Love is meant to be your safe place, not a prison cell

Reach out, get help, you are not alone