Conflict and Communication

 Communication and conflict resolutions are very important in relationships of all types: family, friendships, work relationships and significant others. 

 But everyone has different communication styles and ways they handle conflict. They say you don't really know a person until you see how they handle conflict, and it is kinda crazy how true that is. There is also that saying that there is no winning and losing in an argument, the goal is to come to a mutual understanding and if not, you both lose. I think that is true also.

 It is hard when one person likes to talk things out when things happen and can't stand to leave things on bad terms while the other person needs space and time to analyze the situation and come to their own conclusions.

 With some topics things can be communicated with actions better and words are not necessary, other times body language can tell you all that you need to know. Some things are better left unsaid while other times not saying things leads to bottled up emotions and they end up coming out in a more heated way. 

Sometimes you make assumptions and think you have the ability to read minds better than you do and you end up making up a false story in your head. But humans don't really have the ability to mind read, although that would be nice and make communication a million times easier. I feel like when in doubt it is better to just ask for clarification rather than assume.

But trust is also needed when it comes to communication, if you can't believe a word they say..communicating with them is pointless. Or if what you say is just going to go in one ear then out the other than their is no point either. Both people have to be willing and open to what people have to say for the communication to be successful. Each person also has to be willing to listen to understand, not listen to respond. To be heard, you must also give the mutual respect of hearing the other person. Some people are committed to misunderstanding you though.

With solving conflict it is important to remember we all are just human, we all make mistakes. We all must be able to admit our own mistakes and flaws and to have our mistakes forgiven we must forgive the other person too and realize that they are only human too.