Being Your Own Person

A big lesson I have learned lately is the importance of being your own person. You have to love yourself before you can love others. Happiness does not come from other people, It comes from having confidence and respect for yourself. People need people. People can make you happy but you should not let your happiness only be based on other people. It is hard to not feel like something is missing when you aren't in a relationship because of the pressure and value society/ culture put on being in love, but is important to be able to feel complete on your own. Having that special someone who loves being around you, is always there for you, and brings out the best in you is amazing but you can't force it to happen.  You have to be happy on your own or you will never know if you are just choosing someone out of loneliness. You just have to let things happen and when you least expect it you will meet someone worth it, at least that is what people say. In the meantime it is important to find ways to feel complete on your own. Ways that help me feel complete on my own is meeting new people/making new friends, focusing on school, planning to study abroad, being outside, writing in this blog and helping people.

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” Unknown