Lessons

1.  I have learned the importance of perception. I've been thinking about perception a lot and how much it affects everything.  Two people could be going through the same thing and see things totally different. I always try to  see things through other people's perspective but I guess it is hard to forget about your perception and needs as well. I have realized from experience that seeing things through other people's perspective is very important when it comes to relationships. It can be hard to get someone to understand your point of view sometimes when they haven’t been in your shoes. But communication is everything.

   

2. The next lesson I learned is knowing when to let go. I tried to hold on for so long because of what I used to have that I did not realize I was the only one still holding on.

 These quote describes perfectly why you should let go when the other person is not holding on anymore:

"I won't beg someone to love me. I  learned long ago that there is no use in hopeless pleas of trying to make someone stay. I am too good to chase someone who does not know my worth. I am too wild to keep waiting for someone who does not acknowledge  my value, I want to be loved unconditionally. I should not have to fight so hard for it. I do not have time to prove to some one that I am worth it. I should not have to prove any of that. I am worth more than that."

"Don't chase people, be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people- the ones who really belong in your life-will come to you And stay."-Will Smith

 3.  I also learned that sometimes I can be too trusting because I always try to see the good in people, but it is never wrong to forgive. You have to pay attention to actions not just words. It is crazy how you think you know someone but then they can make a mistake  that makes you lose respect for them. Instead of trying to get revenge, I tried to understand the situation.  I forgave  for myself because forgiving is like  saying that " you don't get to trap me in the past, i am worthy of a future." Besides everyone make mistakes. Holding grudges and being angry isn't healthy. I much rather be too loving, caring and forgiving than cold, angry, and resentful. You should not forget what they did and you should not trust again until it is earned but one mistake does not have to ruin all of the good.

4.  I learned the importance of being my own person. You have to love yourself before you can love others. Happiness does not come in others but within having confidence and respect in yourself.  Sometimes I clung to my relationship because I did not like spending time alone but it is important to be able to enjoy time with yourself. Another thing I tried to do was control when now I realize all I have control over is myself. Even if you are trying to control or change because you want the best for the other person and you care so much, it is still wrong. You can only determine what is best for yourself.

"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds."

5.   The final thing I learned is that sometimes it can be hard to understand how you can promise someone that you will feel the same way forever. But to believe in love, you have to believe that a person can feel the same way about you forever. People and things change but that does not mean your feelings have to change. True love is supposed to be unconditional. When you are with the right person, you can get through the change and grow stronger by learning to adapt. A good relationship requires both people to fight to keep each other in their lives and to never give up on who they love. But it does not work if both people aren't fighting to make it work and being happy with the person you are with is most important.

What am I going to do now?

 Experience, learn, travel and love as much as I can while I'm still alive, here on planet earth.

"Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat,and when you sleep,really sleep.Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all of your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell.And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive.You will be dead soon enough"-Ernest Hemingway