Monogamy and Human Nature

 I read this blog post debating if monogamy is unnatural. Here is the link if you are interested in reading it too.http://themattwalshblog.com/2014/01/07/monogamy-is-unnatural/#pKhPxY5p0OGSWLle.01

 This blog made me think, Is trying to find one person to spend the rest of your life with going against human nature? If you are thinking about it biologically, then yes it is going against human nature. People are biologically programmed to want to pass their genes on to the next generation. To pass your genes on to the next generation as much as possible, you must mate with as many people as possible. In my Physiological Psychology class, we actually talked about this. There is this theory called Coolidge Effect, that states males return from sexual arousal quicker if a new female becomes available. But people are capable of going above their nature.  Human beings are strong enough to stay committed to one person.

I'm not sure if  there is one person meant for every person. I feel like there are a lot of people you can have potential connections with. Because what if that one person is across the world from you, already died, or was born in a different time period? Then you would have no one if that was the only person meant for you.  It would be a waste to spend your whole life searching for this perfect  person who is the  "only one" for you because then you might end up alone.  It is good to be with a variety of people, to see all the different kinds of connections you can have with someone. From these connections, you can see what you like and don't like. Different connections can also show you what you want in a relationship.  I think that is what dating is all about. When you find someone you connect with the most, it is nice to be with a loyal person, who only wants to be with you. When you find this person, you get to have a deeper and more meaningful relationship, than you could ever have if you were with a lot of people at the same time.

I like the analogy that the author of the blog, Matt Walsh, uses - "If you won 600 million dollars in the lottery, would you go out the next day and break into cars to steal the change from the cup holders? That’s what sleeping around is like when you’ve already found a woman who will pledge her life and her entire being to you for the remainder of her existence."